People try to pass off judgements as facts.
By Jurat Nortojiev · · 1 min read
Calling someone "arrogant" means "I didn't like what you told me — you did smash through politeness and tell me straight, even if it hurts."
Calling someone “needy” means “I couldn’t give that person what they wanted.”
Calling someone “stubborn” means “That person didn’t give me what I wanted.”
Calling someone “inappropriate” means “That person didn’t behave according to my norms.”
Calling someone a “flirt” means “I think that person has romantic intentions.”
Notice that words like these sound like facts about the person being judged.
But they tell you more about the person judging.
What someone criticizes reveals more about them than whatever they're judging.